\\ holy mama!!! \\

photo by luke brossette

the hot, steamy, soon-to-be-mama zohar from the blog little miss sunshine

wrote something yesterday on facebook

that really hit a nerve;

she wrote that someone told her that once women become moms

they should avoid wearing bikini swimsuits because bikinis are too sexy

and once you're a mom (and in some people's mind - once you're married),

you should dress more modestly.

 i think it's safe to say that if you've been reading my blog for more than a post...

you know it will be an understatement to say that 

*** i disagree ***

in fact

not only do i disagree, but - i started dressing nicer
and - heaven forefend - sexier

since jesse and i got married.

i feel like i have more of a reason to dress up now - for him,

for the blog - and mainly - for me!

dressing up is fun!!! 

it's expressive, it's creative, it's a huge part of who i am,

and i am not planning on giving up on that. 

not now, not ever.

i do have to say, that since i gave birth, 

i had some major debates 

(between me and myself, and no-one else)

regarding my wardrobe from now on.

"what kind of a mom did i want to be?"

my body has changed dramatically in the past 10 months

(10 months!!! time flies when you're having fun)

since the birth, which, i do admit, was part of the debate.

in the beginning, i just had a harder time accepting it.

but even then - i made a conscious decision to celebrate it still:

my body carried my precious baby girl for 9 months,

which was exactly what it was meant to do!

i was not going to hate it for doing just that...

and then, i managed to lose the weight.

i know there might be some women (or people) out there

who might say that i should have been happy the way i was.

but i did gain almost 30 (!) kg during my pregnancy,

so i did have a lot of weight to lose.

and even before the pregnancy, i had,

as you may remember, some issues with eating disorders.

 so i managed to lose the pregnancy weight

and get back to my pre-eating-disorder weight.

and for the first time in my adult life

i'm happy, truly truly happy, with my body!

so you can bet your bootylicious-ass that i am celebrating my body now!!!!!

*** oh, hell yeah!!! ***

*** alma is going to have a proud mama!!! ***

 which means crop tops (like here and here),

and awesome, sexy photo-shoots,

and these two pictures:

 which jesse took of me for my #100daysofhappiness

and sparked an assortment of comments.

most of them were super positive.

some were shocked that a woman dares to reveal skin on facebook

(the exact amount that's revealed when a bikini photo is posted)

and one comment even dared question my relationship with jesse - 

saying that it's rude of me to post such revealing pictures of me

as a married woman when i have a religious husband, and wondering

if he knew in advance that i was going to post the photos.

little did the commenter know at the time that jesse took the pictures,

and if you ask me - it's none of their business regardless.

and what do you think?

should married women and \ or moms cover up?

or should we celebrate our bodies, whatever shape and size they are?

xo